Going Away for the Weekend (Alone): 7 things to do so that your husband will agree to watch the kids for an entire weekend again
Have you ever had to go away for the weekend? (Or dreamed of doing so?) I mean, your husband and kids stay home and you are off to relax, work, visit, or help someone all on your own. That, my dear SAHMs, is what I'm fixin' to do this weekend.
You may have noticed that I launched my very first actual, physical, tangible product - Mama's Got Mail.
Well, it just so happened to be that there is a local "Shark-Tank-like" entrepreneurial competition going on here in Chattanooga. It's called The 48 Hour Launch: Female Founders edition. I applied and got in. And yes, it is an entire weekend of building up an online business idea. (I'm building up Mama's Got Mail.) I have people on my team for the weekend to help me market the idea, partner with awesome local vendors, and develop a solid business strategy.
This is so dorky (but true), but I think that The 48-Hour Launch is like the best play date I could ever imagine. I am so excited! But, it means I have to be away for the weekend (for the first time ever!).
On the home front, I'm making my lists and checking them twice. I'm not only preparing to go, but I'm also preparing for my husband and kids to stay. It's called double-duty; and no, it's not fair.
But it has to be done if I ever want to go away for a weekend again.
So, let's say YOU are in the rare situation where you are going to go away for the weekend. How do you prepare so that your husband will happily agree to watch the kids by himself all weekend long?
Allow me to show you.
1. Plan the menu. This may sound like total bologna. "Why do I have to plan the meals if I won't even be there to eat them!?" I'll tell you why: Because if you do, your kids will eat better, your husband will be less stressed, and everyone will be able to carry on without you being the air traffic controller.
So, plan food that everyone likes and that your husband can easily make.
You see I have beef stew on Friday night. I'm making that in the afternoon so that it's all ready when my husband and I have the "changing of the guard" at dinner time. And Saturday night is roasted lamb. That's easy because you put it in the oven during nap time and then there is no dinner-prep-stress when the kids are a hot mess at 5:00. You're welcome.
Bonus points if you do some of the prep work for him on Thursday or Friday morning. Cut the vegetables and label them in a Ziplok bag. Prepare the lamb in the baking dish and put it in the refrigerator with a Post-it note with baking directions. Set out any recipes needed.
2. Buy the groceries. Yes, buy the food so that your husband can make everything and not have to leave the house with kids that miss their mommy to buy groceries. That's a problem waiting to happen! Have the food in the house, ready to go.
3. Do the laundry. Not saying every sock and undershirt has to be washed, but do enough laundry on Wednesday and Thursday so that there are enough clean towels, underwear, socks and pants for everyone over the weekend.
4. Write up a suggested itinerary that your husband can use as a basis for planning his weekend. Men like to be communicated with clearly - but not in a nagging way. A list is the perfect solution for you to be able to show what you normally do with the kids and around the hosue without being Mrs. Bossy Pants. (No one likes her.)
You can upload my Daily To Do List that I'm giving to my husband this weekend below. He can use it as a working document, but not be held to it. Since it's the weekend (so no homeschooling), I'm sure he'll fit in some playground time, a hike, or a trip to the Children's Museum to keep the kids busy.
5. Let the kids know you'll be gone so that they can prepare. It's important to let your kids know what to expect, especially if it's the first time you will be away for the weekend. (As it is for me.) Let them know how much fun they will have. What they will eat. And how good that Daddy will take care of them. Give them a week or so to get used to the idea. And always give it a positive light - but let them know that you'll miss them!
6. Thank your husband. Being kind and sweet to your husband is just part of having a happy marriage. When he is doing more than usual, it's just plain good manners to thank him. (Men are so simple. I love it!) This genuine gesture of gratitude also encourages him to have fun and enjoy his time with the kids over the weekend. He'll also feel good that he is doing something that is so helpful to you.
7. Pack ahead of time so you are not rushing around and stressed when you leave. The last thing you want is to put an air of distress into the family when you leave. Do the math: Mommy is a hot mess when she leaves = kids + husband a hot mess because Mommy is leaving! We don't want that. So get your stuff packed and ready to go Thursday night and you'll be able to be calm and relaxed when you spend extra time playing with the kids before you leave.
The key thing to remember here is to make it easy for your husband to be willing to watch the kids for an entire weekend again. Your goal is to make him happy on this one. If he's happy, he can keep the kids happy, and next time you want to head out, he will say, "Oh sure! We had such fun last time! Go ahead, you little Darling. I've got this." (passionate kisses follow)
That's my short (but not necessarily easy) list of how to prepare to high-tail it outta the house for the weekend without the man and babies. Do you have other to-do's to add? I'd love to hear them in the comments below.
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"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." - Mark Twain
Recently, I was speaking at a local Mom's group, and one of the moms told me that she was having a hard time figuring out what her mission was at home. I was intruiged.
She said that every day is pretty much the same, and she felt a like she had nothing she was "working towards." She asked me to write a blog post about it. Done.
Since being home is so important to this mom (and probably everyone reading and writing this), she wanted to have a mission to match that level of committment.
Can you relate?
Where to start? I've got a simple 3-step approach.
This might get a little Back to the Future. Hang on.
(I suggest just taking out a piece of paper and writing your thoughts down.)
start from the End
This is what some smarty-pants call Reverse Engineering. We are all smarty pants here, so that's why we're doing it.
When your years at home raising your kids come to an end, ask yourself:
- How would I like my children to function in the world?
- How would I like to be on the other side of the hands-on years of motherhood? (Frazzled, chill, very involved, more hands-off, I have no idea, etc.)
- What kind of shape will my marriage be in? (Strong, more in love than ever, more independent of each other, etc.)
- What will make me feel like I've done my best for the family?
- How will you know that you've accomplished your goals as a SAHM?
- What sorts of personal activities, hobbies, and interests will I have?
Knowing where you want to go is the best way to figure out what to do now. That's why I suggest starting from the end.
Now let's back up the truck.
start from the Beginning
Think back to your reasons for wanting to be a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) in the first place. Those reasons are so important because they are your heart. Take a moment and write those reasons down. (Ask your husband if you have mommy-brain and forgot!
What made you decide to be home:
- Did you want to be the one to raise your children?
- Does your husband work a lot, and someone had to be the one manning the fort?
- Was your baby just too cute to be left in anyone's care?
- Are you from a long line of stay at home moms, and this is just business as usual?
- Do you just love kids and this is how you roll?
Your initial reasons for joining this rodeo are good and sweet and loving and come from a place of nurturing your own (even if the horses are a bit feisty). Never discredit them.
CONNECT where you are Now
Considering the ages and number of kids you have, you have different tasks to deal with presently. If you have a baby, your job is to make her feel loved and secure, and that you are there to respond to her needs. If you have a toddler, your job is to teach him boundaries and to learn to start to control his impulses. You see what I mean ...
I'd also take note of specific details of your family life that you are handling now, such as:
My husband is deployed in the military.
We're going to move in 5 weeks.
Emily Henderson is coming over to redesign my living room.
You need all of this information for your mission.
Starting where you want to go, then remembering where you started, you are now able to plug in your current mission. Let me demonstrate with an imaginary SAHM named Jennifer.
Mission in Action
So let's say that Jennifer is a first-time SAHM with a 1-year old named Max and feels like she is just floating along - not really having a sense of purpose at home. If she and I sat down together to craft a mission for her, we'd begin with imagining what she envisioned her life and family being like in 20 years.
I'd draw a big line on a piece of paper, and write down her dreams and goals for her, her marriage, her kids, and her home life when her super busy time raising the kids is over. (I'm old school and visual - so we'd be rocking a timeline.)
It might look something like this:
Next, we'd go back to the days when Jennifer was pregnant and when she brought the baby home and what was going through her mind when the decision to be a Stay at Home was finalized.
We'd jot the following down together.
Pretty typical reasons for wanting to be home, wouldn't you say?
So, knowing the end and the beginning, it becomes clear to Jennifer what she can do now to CONNECT why she originally wanted to be home with what she hopes to accomplish when the kids are all grown up.
This connection is her current mission. Let's see what she comes up with.
What I love about this little exercise is that it's so easy and so specific to Jennifer's (and your) goals and family life. There is no wrong answer, and it can be done again and again over the years.
Do you see how her end game and her starting point make it pretty clear what she can do now? (I hope so!)
Well, I want to hear from you! Do you feel like you need a mission at home? Are you willing to sit down and do this (FREE) exercise and see what you come up with? I'd love to learn what your mission is. Share with us all in the comments below!
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I was asked by a local SAHM to write about how to help yourself thrive when your husband is away from home a lot - such as working long hours as an Emergency Room doctor, travelling for work for weeks at a time, or even on a military tour.
Being a SAHM can be tough enough, but when your husband is travelling or serving our country, it becomes even more important that you have strategies in place that support you as a SAHM and keep family life humming along.
So if you're holding down the fort (mostly) solo, I've got some strategies for you to keep your head and your positive attitude.
1. Make a plan. Preparation is your friend, my friend. When your husband heads out for a week-long business trip, let's say, ALWAYS over plan your week. I mean, I plan your meals, activities with the kids, chores ... everything you can think of, and yes, that includes the kitchen sink. You'll see (below) that I don't suggest that you schedule by time, especially when you have little ones. Instead, try to go by a Daily Rhythm - one thing just comes after another.
Note to Self: Don't put pressure on yourself to follow your plan to the letter. It's a guide, and if you can't squeeze in a walk around the block because the baby just had a major blow-out, adjust your plans. Be gracious to yourself.
Here is an sample week-long plan for a SAHM whose husband Joe was away for a week in August. She homeschools her three children, so you'll notice that she needed to schedule that into her week as well as the normal SAHM activities we all have.
This may seem like overkill to you Type B-ers, but could you see yourself taking 30 minutes to sit down and schedule out your week? Would it be worth it to you to not have to figure out what to do with your days? I hope so.
2. Schedule time for yourself. This may sound a little selfish, but when your husband is away, have a BLAST in the evenings. When the kids are all in bed, watch Downton Abbey, paint the walls, collage, or eat BBQ chips. (All things that make your husband gag.)
With evenings to yourself, you can do whatever you want at home and not have to worry about what your husband wants to do. Add your time for yourself to your week-long plan. That way, you make sure you have the time and energy for it, and you don't have to think about it once the kids are asleep.
If your husband is on a military tour, let's say, then this suggestion has to be modified a bit. Still schedule time on your calendar (not in your head) to do something fun or relaxing either at home one evening each week - OR - ask a family member to come over and stay with the kids while you go out - OR - swap baby-sitting with another mom you trust.
3. Have a Night Before Routine that Works for YOU. A Night Before Routine sets you up for success tomorrow. (This is how you can get a shower in every day!) If your eyes are crossing at the idea of having to do any housework in the evening, read THIS (baby steps for the Night Before Routine). But if you want to know more, you can download (for FREE) my entire presentation on this topic below.
4. Physically Take Care of Yourself. Stuffing your face with Blue Bell ice cream, no matter how delicious it is, will not actually help you thrive when your husband is away. It will actually make his leave of absence harder on you. Staying up until 2AM reading about Justin Bieber is not going to change your life when you need to be up with a toddler at 6AM. (Sorry, Justin.)
I'm not saying go on a strict diet (I know I never have), but DO be reasonable about your health and DON'T binge on caffeine, alcohol, junk food, staying up late, or anything that'll make it difficult for you to physically perform your job as a SAHM.
5. Consult with Me! Not trying to get sales-ey on you, but I recently launched consulting services for SAHMs! It all started when a SAHM approached me and asked me where she could schedule a consultation with me ... and I said, "Oh! Let me whip that right up!" So, now I"m consulting SAHMs!
If you would like to have a phone consultation with me to help you create personalized strategies for thriving when your husband is away a lot (or any other SAHM-related snag you've run into), you can schedule a talk with me HERE. The cool thing is that you don't have to hire a baby-sitter or pay for parking. It's all over the phone, from home, and is based on what you want help with.
I really love working with SAHMs, and helping them be happier at home.
Does your husband have to be away from home quite often for work? Can you relate to wanting to create a home life that is still happy and fun, even if you have to do a lot of it on your own? If so, which one of these tips will you do TODAY to make your life easier? Tell me in the comments below.
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My daughter just had one of those birthdays that makes me stop and think. She's growing up. Fast.
She's not little anymore. (Just looking back on this and this post will show you a bit of her growth over the past few years.) My relationship with her is changing. She is changing. So am I.
It makes me listen to Landslide.
It reminds me that life marches on no matter what we do with the time we have.
I think it's easy for us SAHMs to get caught up in everyday life. Just making it through the day, doing what needs to be done,
those sorts of things occupy our time. It's good that we take care of the people that we love and the home that we love them in, but sometimes we lose perspective so that we can accomplish the everyday. (And not go buck wild.)
If you've read my book already, you know what I'm talking about. How life can just pass you by whether you are an active
participant or a foot-dragger. Whether you're spinning your wheels or moving forward. One way or another, tomorrow comes and you're either stuck in the same spot or you've taken stock and moved forward. "Children get older. And I'm getting older, too."
As you look on your life, can you see improvement in yourself personally over the past year, or are you as stuck as a fat pig in three feet of snow?
If you are brave enough to raise your hand and say, "Yes, I'm in a rut." Well, thank you for being honest, and lets
see what I can do to help.
1. Have some fun for a change. Being an uptight woman who has every sock in every drawer in perfect order does not make anyone but Martha Stewart throw back her head in delight and snort laugh. I mean, loosen up from time to time. You know that I like to dance along with New Kids on the Block with my kids. Nothing new. Did you know I also tickle my kids, try to make them giggle, and tell knock-knock jokes?
I think there's something about being a enjoyable to be around that helps make everyday life more enjoyable. Dr. Phil would ask you, "How fun are you to live with?" (Why is a middle-aged bald-headed man so right?)
I'm not bald. At least not yet. If you want, you can read more about my strategies to avoid losing your mind at home here.
2. Tap into your husband's ability to see life from a different angle. This is like night vision for you, lady! Seeing things in places you normally cannot. (You can see my other super power wish list here.) Men always see things differently, and I say it's a good thing. If he's not a total boob, and you trust him to be kind and honest with you, ask him for one suggestion that he has that you can do to get out of a rut. (From my experience, husbands love to solve problems.) Your husband knows you and sees your everyday life. Ask for one suggestion. And listen. And give it the 'ol college try. (Is that even a catch phrase? I'm not sure. I may have just made that one up.)
3. Talk to somebody. I think it's perfectly fine to talk to another SAHM who knows what it's like, an older woman that already (successfully) raised her kids, or even a life coach. Sometimes, getting out of your own head and talking things through with someone who doesn't have their own agenda for you is really helpful. I usually think out loud. How about you?
We are all getting older. So are our kids. Let's decide to move forward in our (personal) lives by taking care of ourselves, having fun, and really connecting with our loved ones. Be silly with your kids. Think of Stevie Nicks singing Landslide to you. Enjoy this short time that we have to be home with our kids. It goes by fast, just like my little girl's childhood.
Is there one thing on this short, but do-able list that you can do TODAY to begin moving yourself out of the rut you've found yourself in? (I think there is, my friend - if not, tell me in the comments below what you'd advise your fellow SAHMs to do!)
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“Regret for the things we did can do can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.” – Sydney J. Harris
Being a SAHM is a lot like being a patriot in the Revolutionary War. We don’t do it for the pay, we don’t do it for the recognition. You can't even really call it a profession. We do it because something inside of us tells us it’s the only way it should be for us. We commit to it with our whole hearts, devote every waking hour to it, and tirelessly work to build something bigger, more beautiful, and longer-lasting than ourselves. It's called being altruistic. And it's a life-changer.
With this kind of dedication, love, and tears going into our families, I think we would all agree that if we could do it well, and do it right, the first time, we would. Regret is so insanely difficult to live with. And when it comes to something as important as raising your children, I sincerely want to help every SAHM avoid regrets.
Following is a list of regrets SAHMs could likely have after their days at home are done, if they don’t pay attention along the way.
1. Regret stuffing your personality and your passion in a drawer to take care of your children. So many of us nurturing care-taker types do this almost instinctively. “Put myself away so I can be there for everyone else,” we tell ourselves. But deep inside a hateful resentment or a pious martyr takes hold. Do we really have to lose ourselves to be attentive to those we love? I say no. I say that we can be silly, creative, compassionate, intelligent, and curious at home, and still raise children and love our husbands well. I don’t think it’s us or them. I think it’s all of us together.
Avoid this regret by: Infusing your personality into your home, how you mother, and what you do with your free time. Hang one of your paintings on the wall. Use your sense of humor to teach your kids life lessons. Read books that make you think, or at least never want to put down. Write in your journal or to a pen pal. Take a plate of food to an elderly neighbor. Find ways to use your gifts while you’re home. Hey, if you are smart enough to find this blog post, you are certainly smart enough to figure this one out.
2. Regret neglecting your husband. As much attention as children need when they are young, it’s never a good idea to throw your marriage under the bus. Children grow up. They move out. That’s what is supposed to happen. And favoring the kids over your husband is simply short-sighted. The long-game here is for you and your husband to grow old together, to raise your children together, and live side-by-side. God bless the kids, but you and your husband are the architects of the family, and if the two of you aren’t on the same page, the whole thing will come down.
Avoid this regret by: Staying connected with him. Having regular date nights, even if it’s on the patio or in front of the fireplace or even on the couch watching a movie you rented from YouTube. Having short little meetings with your husband at night when the kids go to bed to coordinate schedules, pay bills, or figure out what to do about the toddler refusing to take naps anymore. Also, think of little ways to be sweet to your husband and let him know that you think he’s one hot man that you adore.
3. Regret spending too much time on housework instead of really being with the kids. This one is hard to forgive yourself for, because SAHMs are home because they want to be with their kids. But how many times have we put off reading a book, or playing in the sandbox, or pretending with our kids to get dinner ready or do dishes or fold that millionth load of laundry. (I’m guilty, I’ll admit it.) Any woman with grown children will tell you, if she has any sense, that she would give anything for one afternoon with her kids when they were young. When they were under her care and needed her still.
Avoid this regret by: Reading a sweet little poem or looking at a picture or telling yourself that your children are only young for such a short time, and it’s up to you to invest time with them now. If you’re a major Type-A, I suggest you plan this unstructured play time with your kids on your calendar. Google calendar has an alert feature that will even email you or pop up on your computer screen to remind you. Whatever it is you have to do to be relaxed and playful with your kids, do it. It’ll be worth it down the road (for the both of you).
4. Regret that you didn’t take good care of yourself. At the end of the hands-on, daily mothering season of life, many women look at themselves in the mirror and wonder what happened. They are tired-looking, overweight, have health issues, and probably have bad posture. We rarely look at ourselves, much less actively take care of ourselves, when we’re so busy taking care of our families. I get it. But if caring for others is coming at the price of your physical health, your emotional well-being, your spiritual connection, or your mental health, then something is out of balance. And honestly, hasn’t even been a good model of care taking anyway.
Avoid this regret by: Treating yourself with kindness and respect. Including your children in exercise or meal planning. Getting up a little earlier to go for a walk or workout in the basement – even if it’s for 12 minutes daily. Try to connect with a good friend once in a while that is encouraging or makes you laugh. Imagining what you look look like, feel like, and think like 10 years if you continue on the chocolate-binging, stressed-out, lonely person you are today. That's motivation right there.
5. Regret ignoring your dreams for the sake of your family. Let me explain this one. I want every SAHM reading this to be excited and committed to being home, yet I also want her to be clever enough to find ways to fan the flames of her dreams all along the way. Dreams aren’t meant for drawers or under rugs. They are meant to be shared and reached for, and to transform us. And that includes you.
I don’t ever remember reading anywhere that there is some sort of rule that says you can’t pursue your dreams and still be a deliriously happy Stay at Home Mom.
Avoid this regret by: For me, this means writing to you when my kids are in bed at night. It also means journaling before I go to bed, and drawing house plans on Sundays when I dream about building a Craftsman style home someday. It’s teaching my kids to love reading (because I most certainly do), and because I wanted to be a teacher when I was young. For you, it might be reading every possible book you can get your hands on about Benjamin Franklin, or watching Tim Ferriss on CreativeLIVE today because you want to learn how to hack the writing process. With technology and the point in history that we live in, it is absolutely possible to pursue your dreams while you are still home raising your kids.
Rarely do we stop and consider at the beginning what we could regret in the end. The Stay at Home Mom gig is long-term and so taking a moment to survey the long-range picture is super smart and helpful. There are so many good things about being a Stay at Home Mom, and I hope that reading this list of regrets gives you greater resolve to really own your personality and passions, be sweet to your husband, really be there with your children, take good care of yourself, and continue to pursue your dreams. All while you are home. It's doable. Especially for you.
What do you think about regret as a Stay at Home Mom? Do you see yourself avoiding these regrets altogether? Do you see any of these regrets slowing beginning to build up in SAHMs you know? I’d love to hear your ideas for being proud of your time at home in the comments below.
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The lifestyle that a Stay at Home Moms (SAHMs) has is different from the rest of the world. So, it might be a bit of a shock if you were on the fast track to career-ville and one day find yourself home with the babies you love so much. (Shah-zam!!) Why? Because everything you've learned about being a productive, successful, happy adult woman is about to be challenged, flipped around, and laughed at.
It's just that most of us, including myself, weren't trained for being home. We were trained to manage our time, be organized, be outgoing, and independent. Nothing is wrong with these things, but they aren't necessarily the most important skills needed to be a happy (and not overwhelmed) SAHM.
I'm about to share a secret with you. It's the #1 skill you need to be personally happy at home. It is all about making a lifestyle change, and just as if you were moving to a foreign country for the first time, learning the ins-and-outs of being home will make your transition smoother.
Read on, dear SAHMs, read on.
There are times in my married life when I feel disconnected with my husband. Sometimes it’s because he’s been gone on a week-long business trip. Other times it’s because we've just been too busy with our four kids. If we’re not mindful, life can get in the way of our relationship. Does this ever happen to you?
I’m going to tell you how to know if you are disconnected with your man and then how to fix it.
I usually know that I’m feeling disconnected with my husband because I tend to pick fights and get irritated with little things that normally wouldn't bother me. I’m like that naughty 8-year old boy that fights with the kids he wants to be friends with – just to get on their radar. Negative attention is better than none, right? Wrong.
I am a creative person. But when I first began this lifestyle of a stay at home mom, I put that very fun side of myself on the back burner. After a while, I felt like I couldn’t sustain the passion and upbeat attitude that I was known for before kids. Why? It could have been the sleep deprivation, it could have been the on-call 24/7 thing. Or, it could have been that I didn’t intentionally include my natural talents into my new life.
Once I figured out that I was hindering some really great aspects of myself in the name of being a great mom, I woke up. Because holding back the best parts of me was making me bitter and resentful - the opposite of a great mom. So, I put on my thinking cap to figure out ways I could be creative and be home. Before I share those tidbits with you, let's make sure you're going to get something useful from reading this blog post.
How you’ll know you got something out of this post:
Yesterday I was at McDonald's talking with an old man in his 80s named Charlie. Every Sunday morning I see him there. I go to write. He goes to socialize.
So, as usual, he wants to know what I'm writing about. I tell him I'm writing about Stay at Home Moms being jealous of their husbands. "Why would they be jealous?" he wants to know. And my words flowed so eloquently and clearly. It surprised me.
I explained to Charlie that women in my generation are raised to get good grades, go to college, start a good career, and later meet another professional man who has his crap together, and get married after first planning the entire thing on Pinterest. Then, after a few years, have one or two children and go back to work. Continue to be fabulous and rich. Sounds pretty good.
But when women raised with this mindset then decide to stay home and raise their children, foregoing the career, something bad happens. Even though it's their choice to be home, these intelligent, driven women become jealous of their husbands! It can get ugly.
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