You're not alone.
It's one piece of how us moms can lose ourselves when we have kids.
Dawn Jumper, a mom whose children are growing up too fast, is an Etiquette coach here in Chattanooga that I heard about in a write up in Chatter magazine.
After exchanging a few emails, we decided to collaborate together on the July 2014 Box of Mama's Got Mail.
Enter Dawn Jumper.
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use." - Emily Post
A lady has a healthy self-respect along with a strong respect for others. She understands the importance of good manners. Good manners are just a way of showing other people we have respect for them. Being a lady is not about being snobby, dressing a certain way, or acting better than others.
A lady is confident, capable and compassionate. Her power comes from self-control and discretion. She thinks twice and speaks once!
There is a power and dignity that comes from being a lady. Women who stand out as role models are those who are poised, humble, true to themselves and known for their consideration of others. A few ladies in particular come to mind: Kate Middleton, First Lady Michelle Obama, Michelle Pfeiffer, Kate Winslett, Audrey Hepburn, Laura Bush, Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, and Robin Roberts.
How to be a lady?
Being a lady simply takes awareness and practice. As a mom, you are already accustomed to putting others’ needs first. Apply that same grace in your in your friendships and dealings with others. A first steps to doing this is to slow down and focus on who you are with. One of the best gifts you can give someone is your undivided attention, whether that someone is the grocery store cashier or your new co-worker. So, put the cell phone and to do list away when you are with others. Smile, ask questions and be genuinely interested in others.
Strive to be a positive person in your words and deeds. There is plenty of negativity, bitterness and bad news in our world. Be a light to others. Share genuine compliments by appreciating others’ unique qualities.
Write down a list of adjectives that you would like others to use to describe you. Post the list on your frig, in your car and make it your screen saver. We all need qualities to aspire to!
Some recommended reading:
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The Emily Post's Etiquette Guide, 18th Edition: This is a contemporary and thorough resource to have on hand for all your etiquette related questions. Topics from table manners to workplace etiquette are covered.
The Fine Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine: A great little book of practical advice on how to start conversations, develop meaningful relationships, and network.
About Dawn Jumper
Dawn Jumper is an Etiquette Specialist and founder of The Etiquette Entrepreneur School and The Etiquette Company. She is on a mission to help others be more confident, considerate and intentional in their everyday lives. Dawn develops and delivers classes, workshops and presentations that teach modern manners and social confidence. Dawn also offers online courses and coaching for women starting their own etiquette education businesses in their communities. You may reach her at email@example.com or through Facebook.