Here's me at the Archeology exhibit at the Children's Museum, just digging up the truth about being a Stay at Home Mom.
When my daughter was four, I had one of these "feedback sessions" with her. I asked, "What makes a good Stay at Home Mom?" Here is what she told me two years ago:
1. They stay home.
2. They play with their kids. (She mentioned this one four times, btw.)
3. Make toys out of LEGOs, such as airplanes.
4. Take naps with their kids.
5. Take kids to the park.
6. Read to kids. Kids like reading time.
Now my daughter is almost 6, and I decided to ask her the same questions again – to see if she had a different perspective now that she’s a “big girl.”
1. Act nice and good. Kids like when moms are sweet and happy, not grumpy or stressed.
2. Feed the kids a lot. Especially when you set out treats for kids.
3. Make sure the kids are super healthy.
4. Set up games for the kids.
5. Spend time with the kids playing games and reading books.
6. Kids don’t care about moms cleaning all of the time, but they do like the house to be neat.
Quite a good list, I think.
When I asked if it matters to kids that their moms are happy at home, all of my kids said “Yes!” Why? Because kids really like it when their moms are happy. Then they get more hugs and kisses and smiles and feel happier. The whole household seems a better place to be when the Cruise Director (a.k.a., Mom) is relaxed and pleasant.
My little interview with my daughter was very helpful to me, and honestly, it made me feel bad for those rough days when I’ve gotten so caught up in housework or other tasks that I’ve forgotten to be kind and relaxed with my kids. I regret every time I’ve ever done that. Do you feel the same way about your rough days?
If you were to ask your kids what Stay at Home Moms should know about doing a good job at home, what would they say? Ask them today! You may be surprised at their sweet little answers. Tell us their sweet little answers in the comments below! We all love reading what kids say.
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